When I was going through the most challenging times in my life, I wanted nothing more than to read something — anything — from someone who had been there before me and had come out the other side in one piece.
And then there were the times when I felt totally isolated; when what I was going through was so immensely private I dared not tell anybody out of embarrassment or shame or both. Surely someone has been through this before me, I would think to myself. I’m not the first. I’m not the only one.
In fact it was often in reading someone else’s story that I would summon the courage to tell mine. Like Beverly Johnson’s story about Bill Cosby in Vanity Fair. Because of it I faced my own truth of molestation at the hands of my baby sitter and hit “publish” before fear got the best of me. [Letter to My 12-Year-Old Self (That Took Me Four Decades to Write)]. She inspired me and I believed and hoped that my story may inspire someone else too; or at least help them to feel a little less alone.
This is why I write. This is why I started kindred. It’s what makes me feel human and vulnerable and honest. While I continue to find and write my anthologies of true stories there are plenty of amazing resources when you need to feel inspired or a little less alone. All of these organizations exist to make us feel more connected. To wake us up to feeling instead of merely scrolling. In short, to make us all feel more human.
Share your truth. You never know who else may need to hear it.
Early on in my personal spiritual journey, I went through a phase of watching and reading stories of NDE’s or near death experiences. It was an integral part of shedding my ingrained catholic beliefs of heaven and hell and life ending at death.
This led me to the work of Dr. Michael Newton (Journey of Souls: Case Studies of Life Between Lives), which quite literally blew my mind and made me eager to experience my own past life regression; which I later did with the fabulous Nancy Hajek right here in Nashville.
In the forward to Frank Ostaskeski’s beautiful book, The Five Invitations* is this quote by Rachel Naomi Remen, M.D.:
Chances are until you have experienced that one great loss, this will read to you as more ominous than catalytic. Like grief itself, these types of statements can’t fully be absorbed and understood until you experience them yourself.
We can get attached to who we think we are. We can be downright stubborn about it. Our identity seamlessly and completely intertwined with what we do. What we do becomes what we are. But what if what we do is taken away from us in the blink of an eye? Who are we then?
In the words of Chinese Philosopher Lao Tzu: