Secrets.

Secrets.

July 05, 2016

My high school boyfriend backhanded me on prom night. The force of the blow made my nose bleed and my head throb. I was so stunned I didn’t utter a sound. I just sat there, holding my nose shut and letting the tears stain my white dress.

I never told anyone at the time. I blamed myself. Not because I deserved it — god no — rather because I was too naive to see it coming or believe it was possible. Afterwards I simply pretended it never happened. Everything is just fine, thank you. There were reputations to protect and images to uphold. He went on being a jock. I went on being a cheerleader. We were voted “Best Couple” the same year I was to become homecoming queen. We never spoke of “the incident” again; as I referred to it, refusing to acknowledge it for what it was: abuse.

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Maybe It’s a Different World Where Exxon Mobil Lives. (2 min read)

Maybe It’s a Different World Where Exxon Mobil Lives. (2 min read)

April 05, 2016

Recently the LA Times ran an op-ed by Neva Rockefeller Goodwin in which she details the reasons why she donated her shares of Exxon Mobil to the family’s environmental foundation. [Los Angeles Times Op-Ed by Neva Rockefeller Goodwin] She says she lost faith in the company’s future value and what that valuation is based on.

One could surmise that this decision was as much a business decision as an emotional one, but she did something good with those shares — she put them toward aiding the problem Exxon Mobil knowingly contributed to. What Exxon Mobil knew, when they knew it and what they did to keep it hidden — that’s the bigger story here.

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Letter to My 12-year-old Self (That Took Me Four Decades to Write) (5 min read)

Letter to My 12-year-old Self (That Took Me Four Decades to Write) (5 min read)

April 04, 2016

Dear me,

You were embarrassed that you still had a baby-sitter at the age of 12. Partly because you took exception to the term “baby-sitter” — you were far from a baby; and partly because you had friends who were being left alone at that age. Truth be told most of your friends were left in the care of older siblings.

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